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Sexuality, orientation, gay, straight, bisexual, asexual, pansexual, transsexual, and the list of mysteries continue. But I wonder to myself, was heterosexuality ever a mystery? Did a straight woman or man ever wonder why they were attracted to someone of the opposite sex? Do any of them have a "coming-out story" or remember an age when they "first realized...". Have they experienced the pain, humiliation, oppression, depression, or confusion that a homosexual can feel?
Why is it so different? Why is it so abnormal to like someone of the same sex? Should all of these feelings be considered different or abnormal? Why, when we never examine the thoughts and feelings of a "straight" person. Why are their thoughts so normal?
Does sexual orientation depend on a person's actions and behaviors, or rather on thoughts and feelings? Does it even matter; should it make a difference? Should what you feel and how you behave make you feel ashamed? Why is it that we're immediately attached a label if we're attracted to men or women? What does that label say about you, anyway? If someone's label is a straight female, does her thoughts solely include those of men; do her sexual tendencies reflects that of her label? Am I gay if I think gay thoughts? Or do physical acts determine orientation? Who decides these things?
Why is "straight" a starting point? Why are we the ones deviating? Who came up with this? Why isn't homosexuality a starting point, and people deviate from that. But, for all to be equal, we can't have a starting point to deviate from. Why so the straight think they are so high and mighty?
Do we really exist on a scale from straight, to bisexual, to gay? Do we all fall within this range? Are scales, ranges, and models necessary or sufficient? Why is it that we need comparative measures? What if you could just be, without a need to compare oneself to another. What if you merely fall for someone based on something deeper than anatomy.
This leads me to the idea of classification. It's what we were brought up to do. Plants. Animals. Insects. Carnivore. Omnivore. Herbivore. Reptiles. Mammals. Amphibians. Gay. Straight. Bisexual. The idea behind classification is simplicity. With classification systems, our world becomes a little easier, there's less cognitive processing that needs to occur. You eat plants; you're a herbivore. You birth live young; you're a mammal. But what if these boundaries are blurred?
As humans, we claim to be capable of higher forms of thinking. Then why is it so hard to see that categorization can be impeding, inefficient, and detrimental? Why can't we see that lines begin to blur when attempting to use the rules of categorization on ourselves... only then does categorization not seem like such a good idea.
Sometimes biological classification fails to step up to the plate. Gender; male and female. What about hermaphrodites? What is so wrong with a hermaphrodite baby? Do you see any "Congratulations on an ambiguous baby!" card in any Hallmark store? Didn't think so. Our society isn't accepting of any other form of gender. Drag queens? Transsexuals? Butch females. Nellie, sissy, or girly boys. All of these things deviate from the norm... well sorry society, gender isn't just black and white. And neither is sexual orientation.
I ask myself, what's so wrong with the fact that I like both women and men. Should this fact reflect negatively about who I am as a person? How did connections between homosexuality and words like "sinful", "wrong", and "immoral" start? What purpose do these connections serve?
Is it too hard to ask for acceptance and tolerance?
Should we really need to ask? Why isn't it a given?
Why is it so different? Why is it so abnormal to like someone of the same sex? Should all of these feelings be considered different or abnormal? Why, when we never examine the thoughts and feelings of a "straight" person. Why are their thoughts so normal?
Does sexual orientation depend on a person's actions and behaviors, or rather on thoughts and feelings? Does it even matter; should it make a difference? Should what you feel and how you behave make you feel ashamed? Why is it that we're immediately attached a label if we're attracted to men or women? What does that label say about you, anyway? If someone's label is a straight female, does her thoughts solely include those of men; do her sexual tendencies reflects that of her label? Am I gay if I think gay thoughts? Or do physical acts determine orientation? Who decides these things?
Why is "straight" a starting point? Why are we the ones deviating? Who came up with this? Why isn't homosexuality a starting point, and people deviate from that. But, for all to be equal, we can't have a starting point to deviate from. Why so the straight think they are so high and mighty?
Do we really exist on a scale from straight, to bisexual, to gay? Do we all fall within this range? Are scales, ranges, and models necessary or sufficient? Why is it that we need comparative measures? What if you could just be, without a need to compare oneself to another. What if you merely fall for someone based on something deeper than anatomy.
This leads me to the idea of classification. It's what we were brought up to do. Plants. Animals. Insects. Carnivore. Omnivore. Herbivore. Reptiles. Mammals. Amphibians. Gay. Straight. Bisexual. The idea behind classification is simplicity. With classification systems, our world becomes a little easier, there's less cognitive processing that needs to occur. You eat plants; you're a herbivore. You birth live young; you're a mammal. But what if these boundaries are blurred?
As humans, we claim to be capable of higher forms of thinking. Then why is it so hard to see that categorization can be impeding, inefficient, and detrimental? Why can't we see that lines begin to blur when attempting to use the rules of categorization on ourselves... only then does categorization not seem like such a good idea.
Sometimes biological classification fails to step up to the plate. Gender; male and female. What about hermaphrodites? What is so wrong with a hermaphrodite baby? Do you see any "Congratulations on an ambiguous baby!" card in any Hallmark store? Didn't think so. Our society isn't accepting of any other form of gender. Drag queens? Transsexuals? Butch females. Nellie, sissy, or girly boys. All of these things deviate from the norm... well sorry society, gender isn't just black and white. And neither is sexual orientation.
I ask myself, what's so wrong with the fact that I like both women and men. Should this fact reflect negatively about who I am as a person? How did connections between homosexuality and words like "sinful", "wrong", and "immoral" start? What purpose do these connections serve?
Is it too hard to ask for acceptance and tolerance?
Should we really need to ask? Why isn't it a given?
distressed
contemplative
QAF ^^;;